Breakups are difficult and can leave you an emotional wreck. But there are some bad habits you might be guilty of that stand in the way of your recovery. Here are five things to stop doing so that you can move on and heal.

HABIT #1: Not talking about it

When you go through something traumatic like a breakup, you’re going to have a lot of feelings. If you don’t talk about them and go through the emotional turmoil, you will eventually crash out. Talk to a trusted friend who is willing to listen without judgment or consult a professional.

HABIT #2: Too many distractions

You might think that distracting yourself from the breakup for long enough means eventually you’ll just be over it and fully healed. But it doesn’t work like that. You need to process what has happened before you can recover, so don’t do this – your heartbreak will catch up to you.

HABIT #3: Waiting for closure

Breakups are often messy, with people feeling that a lot has gone unsaid. Waiting for the ‘perfect’ closure, however, can stand in the way of you moving on. Stop waiting for them to text you so you can get answers about why it happened and work on closing this chapter your way.

HABIT #4: Remembering good times

Many people, after a breakup, are guilty of only remembering the good times and romanticising the relationship. In reality, there were probably just as many bad times – there’s a reason you broke up, after all. Try, instead, to remember things honestly as they really happened.

HABIT #5: Stalking their socials

One of the worst things you can do (and many people find it hard to resist) is stalking your ex on social media to see what they’re up to and look for clues to see if they have moved on or if they miss you. Block and unfollow them while you focus on your healing journey.